Dealing With Hypersensitivity - The 'Secret' to Not Suffering From Other People's Feelings

"Knowing your own darkness is the best method for- You feel responsible for other people's happiness,
dealing with the darknesses of other people." Carlespecially your loved ones'
Jung- You suffer from inexplicable fatigue, especially after
Over the years, as I have been getting to grips withbeing in the company of other people
my own hypersensitive nature, I find more and more- When your friends or relatives feel bad, you will
high sensitive persons finding their way to myspend hours talking on the phone with them, doing
practice.little favors for them, anything to make them feel
While every client is unique, and every story isbetter, even if it tires and stresses you out
different, there are issues in the lives of- You not only feel but take on board other people's
hypersensitive people (HSP's) that recur time andfeelings and physical symptoms like stomach aches,
time again in my practice. If you feel you may beheadaches, stiff neck and shoulders, etc.
hypersensitive yourself, you may benefit from someIn the years I have been practicing past-life therapy
of the things I have discovered when working withand inner child work, I have found there is one
hypersensitivity - my clients' and my own!important aspect of hypersensitivity, of being able to
Yes, it is possible to sense other people's feelings -feel others' emotions, that is almost never explained
as a HSP, it is very likely you are subconsciouslyto us as we grow up. It is so simple it is
'tuning in' to them all the time.mind-boggling. When I tell my clients this, I can see
As HSP children, we are not always born to parentsthem sit back and go: 'Oh. Well. No-one ever told me
who know how to deal with this. They may be HSPthat.' And then the relief sets in.
themselves, but having had to repress their ownDo you want to know the secret to dealing with
sensitivity, especially their 'undesirable' feelings, theyhypersensitivity? It is very simple. And it is not a
could not help you deal with it.secret. Here it is:
When sensitive children are born to troubled parentsJust because you are able to sense other people's
(and they often are, more about this in a nextfeelings, doesn't mean you are responsible for those
article), they often start 'tuning in' to their parents'feelings.
feelings from birth, subconsciously trying to alleviateTold you it was simple?
their parents' bad feelings - so their parents will beNow, please read it again. Let it sink in.
happy. As children, we don't realize this is not how itWhen you find yourself sensing other people's
works. We want our parents to be at peace so wefeelings, worrying about them, sensing them as bodily
can be at peace. We want our parents to be happysymptoms, remind yourself: just because I can feel
so we can be happy.them doesn't mean I have to deal with them. Take a
Worse, when sensitive children are born into familiesbreath, gently release the other's feelings with your
where there is violence or emotional abuse, they willbreath, and let them flow into the earth, of release
often try to act as 'containers' for the bad feelingsthem in the hands of the other person's guardian
they sense in the atmosphere.angel. Just don't hang on to them.
Whilst doing this, they will be constantly using theirYou don't have to solve other people's problems. In
'psychic antennae' to assess whether they are safe -fact, it's learning to deal with these problems that
a form of hyperalertness you also see in those whohelps them grow as human beings - taking people's
suffer from PTSD.problems away from them would be arrogant indeed!
Because hypersensivites can sense danger comingNow, knowing this may not be the cure-all to the
(anger, violence, and so forth) they will use theseproblems with hypersensitivity - especially when your
'psychic antennae' to survive, which is a good thing atinner child has become dependant on solving other
the time - but as they grow up, start their ownpeople's crises for their sense of safety or
families and the danger has gone, they do not turnself-worth.
off these psychic antennae. They are still survivingIf this is the case and you still find it difficult not to
instead of living.make yourself responsible for other people's feelings,
So, as you have grown up as a hypersensitive child,you may want to read my next article: Healing your
you may recognize one or more of theseInner Child!
'symptoms':