| The other day, I received an email from a guy who | | | | take this to the next level and check up on them. |
| told me that "I always get the feeling that my | | | | With this decision must come the acceptance that |
| girlfriend is cheating on me. I've asked her about this | | | | you are going to then have to deal with the bad |
| and she wonders how I could even ask her that and | | | | news if you get it. Likewise, if your digging shows |
| gets very upset. But, she doesn't out and out say no | | | | that they are not cheating, then you should |
| and she doesn't offer any logical explanations for her | | | | absolutely put this issue to rest and stop allowing it |
| behavior. This is starting to really hurt our relationship. | | | | to destroy your relationship. A partner who is always |
| Should I just trust her and wonder if she's lying to | | | | doubting you is not a partner who is going to remain |
| me and cheating on me or should I keep pressing the | | | | attractive long term. So, one way or another, you |
| issue?" I will tell you how I responded in the following | | | | may want to resolve this issue for good so that it |
| article. | | | | doesn't continue to crop up and cause you pain. |
| Ask Yourself What Makes You Think She's Cheating. | | | | Why You Should Just Stop Asking About Her |
| Are Your Suspicions Valid Or Do They Come From | | | | Cheating And Either Follow Up Or Let It Go: |
| You?: I asked the writer to try to step back and | | | | Continuing to ask her if she's cheating is probably not |
| define all of the reasons that he suspected his | | | | going to get you anywhere. She's continued to deny |
| girlfriend was being unfaithful. Was he just going off | | | | it and it's very unlikely that suddenly she's going to |
| of the way he was feeling? Had she been acting | | | | change course and come out with a full confession. |
| suspiciously? Was there any concrete evidence or | | | | Plus, if she's innocent, your continuing to harp on this |
| information that backed up the suspicions? Was the | | | | is only going to push her further away. At some |
| relationship changing and therefore in response he | | | | point, you will need to drop this issue and follow up |
| was becoming more possessive? Did he feel he didn't | | | | on your own or decide to trust her until she gives |
| deserve or couldn't keep his girlfriend? | | | | you a reason not to. |
| He had to try to objectively see if he was projecting | | | | And if she is cheating, bringing up the things that are |
| his own insecurities and doubts about the relationship | | | | making you suspicious are only going to tip her off as |
| onto his girlfriend. Sometimes, certain relationship just | | | | to how she needs to cover herself better. |
| bring out the possessiveness and the insecurity in us | | | | Determining If She's Cheating On Your Own: Your |
| and we see things that are maybe not there. | | | | next option is to just begin to dig on your own. |
| However, with that said, there's almost always a | | | | There are many tools for this and none are |
| reason that the suspicions are there. They may lie | | | | particularly expensive. You can use reverse look up |
| with you or they may lie with them. Sometimes your | | | | software for any odd numbers that you find on her |
| significant other really is cheating and sometimes they | | | | cell to determine exactly who she's been calling. |
| are not. | | | | There is also software that will allow you to see all |
| Sit down and list all of the things that aren't adding | | | | of the activity of her computer and cell phone - even |
| up. Look at the list long and hard and ask yourself if | | | | things that have been deleted or need pass words. |
| these are really valid suspicions that you could then | | | | The truth is, it's not very hard to catch a cheater - |
| follow up on or if these things add up to a whole | | | | even a very good one. A person who is cheating has |
| bunch of nothing. | | | | to spend a decent amount of time with the other |
| Deciding How Far You Want To Go With This: After | | | | person and they must set up these meetings. This |
| you've made your list, you will come to a point | | | | leaves tons of clues and opportunities where they |
| where you need to ask yourself if you are willing to | | | | aren't with you so that you can follow up. |