| Your relationship just does not seem to give you the | | | | and light banters. Remember how easy and fun this |
| happiness that you expected. It started off with | | | | was in the earlier days? |
| great fanfare and immense promise. You felt | | | | 3. Really listen to each other! Do you 'hear' each |
| wonderful, he was attentive and you were on a | | | | other or do you talk at each other. One of the |
| perpetual high... you were high on love and he was | | | | secrets of good relationships is not taking each other |
| the fix that you needed and you needed him... and all | | | | for granted. And the only way to not do that is to |
| of him frequently. But now the spark is gone, you | | | | really hear what the other person is saying with their |
| feel taken for granted and all your happily-ever-after | | | | words and body language. Encourage him to talk by |
| hopes and dreams have crashed and burnt. So what | | | | listening to him.... Really listening and connecting with |
| are the secrets of good relationships? What are the | | | | him. Do not be tempted to take your criticism with |
| hidden aspects of happy relationships? | | | | you! |
| 1. Mutual respect! Yes, you do need a two people | | | | 4. Treat each other well! I know you tend to treat |
| reciprocal admiration society composed only of you | | | | him with the same disinterest that he dishes out to |
| and him. This may be a challenge if you have been | | | | you. But one of the secrets of good relationships is |
| together a long time as familiarity has a way of | | | | to treat him well. Resist the temptation to repay evil |
| eroding the qualities you once found so amazing. | | | | for evil but turn the relationship around by taking |
| Remember what it is that attracted you to him and | | | | baby steps in treating him well. The initial steps will be |
| make an effort to sincerely compliment him on the | | | | hard but I assure you that it will get easier with time. |
| things that he does well. And try not to harp too | | | | He may be initially suspicious but as you continue on |
| long on the things that he does not do well. Mention | | | | this journey only a harden rogue would not notice |
| the problem and then leave it alone. Talking | | | | and begin to respond in kind. |
| constantly about his mistakes will only build | | | | 5. Learn each others love language. They lied; you |
| resentment and add to your mutual unhappiness. | | | | should not treat him as you would want to be |
| 2. Mutual awe! Do you admire each other? Are there | | | | treated. You need to treat him as he would want to |
| things about him that just amaze you? Does he | | | | be treated. What is his love language? For him to feel |
| admire you? One of the secrets of good relationships | | | | loved what actions does he need to see displayed by |
| is mutual wonder. You may not feel this way, so you | | | | you. We often assume that our love language is his |
| need to work on it. Hang out with him as he does | | | | love language leading to endless frustration and |
| mundane things and just enjoy his presence, jokes | | | | heartache. |