| ="body"> | | | | deeply worried the thoughts that come to you are |
| When you say the way you think will inevitably yield | | | | not happy thoughts and when you have a feeling of |
| you certain results you reinforce the idea that | | | | happiness and joy the thoughts that come to you |
| different thinking will yield different results. People in | | | | are a match. One needs to know his or her thinking is |
| sales will often tell their sales force to think positive. | | | | always preceded by the emotions and feelings which |
| But that only works for those who are feeling | | | | give rise to them. Always, always, and did I say, |
| positive already. If you tell a person who is | | | | always. |
| experiencing negative feelings to think positive you | | | | You alter the conversation from negative to positive |
| can immerse them deeper. When you feel better | | | | or from the undesired to the desired by deliberately |
| you evoke better feeling thoughts. Your thinking is | | | | choosing better feelings, to have better feeling |
| pointed in a more lofty direction and that's what you | | | | thoughts. It's quite true that you can not be |
| want for success, a greater sense of self esteem. | | | | experiencing deep worry and in a moment cause |
| Your coaching would be more effective if you could | | | | yourself to experience jubilation. But you can |
| raise the level of their feelings to be better place | | | | however, with the willingness to seek out a better |
| than where they might be. | | | | feeling thought, a very small happier feeling thought; |
| The only people you would say 'think positive' to, are | | | | you can cause yourself to get there. Reach for a |
| people you feel are not thinking that way. You don't | | | | better feeling thought no matter how small and then |
| tell everyone who doesn't think negative to think | | | | reach further and then further. You will notice |
| differently. And what they hear when you keep | | | | changes in the physical reality as you begin to build an |
| reminding them to think positive is that they think | | | | ability to do this. You will be thinking 'positive |
| negatively. So at a deeper level they are being | | | | thoughts'. Moreover your ability to attract what you |
| reminded that they must be negative thinkers. It's | | | | desire in your present activity is enhanced. |
| worse than that, every time you harp on the idea | | | | By intending to move from whatever the emotions |
| they try harder but every effort makes real what | | | | you are experiencing to even a small improvement in |
| they are resisting. | | | | your feeling about whatever your immediate concern |
| If you think healthy thinking is indeed healthy for you, | | | | is, will cause you to point yourself in a direction of no |
| you do affirm one thing that is very important, that | | | | resistance and freedom. My youngest daughter is a |
| what you think matters. No doubt about it. However, | | | | waitress and she realizes that the happier she can be |
| that is all you are doing, you are making it real that | | | | she seems to receive far better tips. You do better |
| what you think influences the outcomes in life, | | | | in school, at work, in your studies, in all areas of your |
| negative or not. A more dominant negative person, | | | | life when you can live your life always choosing to be |
| who may for the moment feel good about himself, | | | | happy. You are recognized as a 'positive person'. |
| can be pushed into re-igniting the negative beliefs | | | | When you catch yourself speaking something or |
| about himself when he is reminded to think positive. | | | | thinking something you feel negative about, never |
| And if he tries hard to think that way he further stirs | | | | add to it by making yourself wrong. Use it to make |
| his negative beliefs. In that state any bit of negative | | | | yourself stronger by quickly looking for something |
| evidence life brings forth may continue to flame | | | | that feels better. Dom DeLuise recently passed away |
| those emotions. | | | | and Burt Reynolds said that Dom never had an |
| It's just not as simple as telling someone to think | | | | unkind word to say about anyone. How wonderful an |
| differently. I have coached many young athletes and | | | | example is that? In my next article on this subject I |
| students and what is important for them is to have | | | | will be suggest some things you could do when you |
| an understanding of both where thoughts come, and | | | | are in a 'negative' mood and wish to get yourself out. |
| what causes them to come forth. When you are | | | | |